tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2441769948981888005.post377373737919712785..comments2023-05-30T05:48:26.542-07:00Comments on Lovesick Soul: And another oneYedid Nefeshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05768603382212408288noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2441769948981888005.post-13275982527252199872012-04-30T22:35:25.046-07:002012-04-30T22:35:25.046-07:00I don't have the precise sources in front of m...I don't have the precise sources in front of me at the moment, but I think that this is the basic halachic view of forgiveness.<br />You only need to forgive someone after this person has apologized to you three times. If this person has apologized (sincerely! and shown that it is sincere) three times and you have not forgiven them, then the sin is on you. There is, otherwise, no obligation for you to forgive. However, you are forbidden from holding a grudge or seeking vengeance. <br /><br />Dan, if you attribute everyone's actions purely to the will of Hashem, aren't you discrediting their own free will?Sparrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03353090248571385006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2441769948981888005.post-28002117689745350582012-04-04T13:46:22.766-07:002012-04-04T13:46:22.766-07:00If everything that happens to you is according to ...If everything that happens to you is according to Hashem's will, than the other person was just a stick in the hands of Hashem, and if that person didn't do whatever they did, somebody else would have to you. Of course, this doesn't mean I can be a jerk... but the point I am getting at, is that you forgive the other person because it wasn't really them that did the act, it still was willed and allowed by Hashem. Doesn't mean you have to be buddies with the person ever again, but since Hashem wants us to be like Him, and He forgives, so to should we.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12577818693926221624noreply@blogger.com